How To Unravel Your Emotional Knots

develop emotional freedom with spiritual counseling coachingDid you know that your habits of thought, perception, and action create “energetic knots” that keep you stuck at a certain level of awareness?

The Hindu yogic scriptures explain how these energy knots (or granthis) affect the chakra system and prevent the Kundalini energy to flow upwards toward the crown chakra to help you grow spiritually and eventually reach enlightenment. They get reflected in your life-movie as fixed ideas and unconscious patterns of fear and guilt you express as anger, greed, pride, and other negative emotions.

The concept of energy “knot” is more accurate than energy “block” to help you understand how your own tendencies disrupt a more joyful experience of life. You may remove energetic blocks through healing, but your mental tendencies and attachments either tighten or loosen these knots, depending, of course, on how self-aware you are—that is, whether you choose love or fear in your approach to life.

Energy blocks can happen anywhere, for instance disturbing your state of health, but certain granthis are specific to the flow of Kundalini, which is the spiritual, creative energy that shapes the physical body in the womb and then lies dormant at the base of the spine until it’s awakened through intense devotion, spiritual practices, or the grace of an enlightened master.

It takes many lifetimes to arouse and stimulate it, but once energized, it spirals upward along the feminine and masculine channels of the chakra system (each lifetime continuing where it left off), piercing them until there’s an uninterrupted flow of spiritual energy leading to Self-realization. Some people confuse it with sexual energy, but that’s a limiting view arising from an overly sexualized world.

You could say that Kundalini encompasses all aspects of energy manifesting as physical, mental, emotional, creative, or sexual energy, since it’s the Feminine aspect of Consciousness, but it’s fundamentally a spiritual force that remains dormant in most people, while sexual energy tends to be active in some way.

Emotional Freedom Leads To Spiritual Freedom

The energetic knots blocking your spiritual energy reflect negative tendencies producing the repetitive patterns that weave your perception and experience of life. They become obvious when you get emotionally triggered, because that’s when your sense of otherness (your egoic inner bully) overpowers your sense of self with past wounded impressions. In other words, it colors it with any form of fear or guilt, making you hold on tight to defensive mechanisms to protect a self-image or gain a sense of control.

But the more you fixate or hold on to anything that feeds this distorted self-perception, whether it’s ideas or expectations, the illusion of control or power, attachments or unresolved emotions, the more you tighten your own knots, thus blocking the flow of Awareness. By the same token, the more flexible and detached you become, by letting go of egoic needs and identifications, the more you allow Consciousness within you to transform your experience of life.

There are specific yogic techniques to dissolve the energy knots in the chakras, which require the personal guidance of a teacher, but you can also achieve this with self-awareness, loosening the negative, unresolved emotions that reinforce them. Not only do these keep you stuck in the past; they also hamper the mental-emotional freedom needed for spiritual growth. Here are some basic guidelines to get you started:

  • Become aware of your triggers

Learn to recognize which situations trigger which reactions in you, and why (see Do You Know Your Emotional Triggers?). To develop emotional freedom, you must understand your inner motivations to discern what comes from the ego and what arises from deeper, truer aspects of your soul. All emotions are connected to past impressions, so accept any emotion without acting on it, and recognize the energy trail that has brought it back to your current reality.

You can look at contradictory feelings you couldn’t resolve in the past from a different viewpoint, because you have the life experience to better understand your human nature and express your feelings honestly. But you must hold back from impulsive reactions to let the energy pushing those emotions become apparent; if you just react you won’t see the real motivations behind them—the distorted self-perception your ego-mind is trying to protect. In a nutshell: stop identifying with your emotions, they’re not you!

  • Let go… Let go… Let go…

It’s well known in India that if you want to catch a monkey, you glue a jar to a steady surface, fill it with peanuts, and then wait. The monkey will come and slip one hand in the jar to get the peanuts, but as soon as he grabs hold of the peanuts its own clutched fist traps him in the jar, so to speak. The mind does exactly the same thing with your thoughts, desires, attachments, expectations, and emotions. The only way to free yourself is to let go. So keep this image in mind next time you get triggered, and loosen your grip on what enslaves you to your ego. :-)

  • Become aware of your breathing

Controlling your breath is essential to control the mind. Breathing is natural in you, not just to keep your body alive but also as a tool for self-growth. Since you are a spark or expression of Divine Consciousness, each breath gives you the opportunity to experience and transcend physical reality. Remain aware of your breathing at all times, consciously deepening it, especially when faced with negative emotions.

Fear, anger, shame, anxiety, and guilt set you off-center and tighten your knots because they constrict your energy; but you can relax with slow, deep breaths. Mindful breathing grounds you in the body, connecting you to the present moment, and opens you up to new possibilities of experience.

  • Meditate every day

Meditation is the ultimate medicine for the soul, because it helps you relax to generate energy and create enough emotional distance to have clarity about yourself and others, while also stimulating the spiritual forces within you to clear the way for spiritual freedom. Meditate by concentrating on your breathing to quiet the mind and access your true nature. Then transfer this to your daily life, always keeping some of your awareness on your breath.

  • Cultivate the Inner Witness

Learning to observe yourself without judgment, to awaken the Inner Witness that is your true Self, is essential to grow spiritually. Whenever you judge, you stop the flow of awareness and love, both of which are aspects of the real you. This means that every time you judge you disconnect from yourself to hide your negative patterns.

The Inner Witness has been hijacked by your egoic sense of otherness fixating on other people’s opinions, needs, demands, and of course, judgments, because the ego-mind doesn’t want you to look within to discover your divinity. But if you detach and place your awareness at a higher level, intuitive wisdom emerges to help you make conscious choices. The more you trust and surrender, the more fulfilling your journey becomes.

Isn’t it time to learn spiritual healing tools to loosen and unravel your emotional knots and the self-defeating patterns they reinforce, day in and day out, to keep you emotionally stuck in the past? So contact me today to start living a fearless, soul-guided life by transforming your habits of thought and perception!

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