The Love You Yearn For Is Self-Love

Nurture self-love with spiritual counseling & coachingWe’re all looking for love, because love feeds our soul. Whether it’s romantic relationships or the relationships with family or friends, love is the driving force that motivates you to engage and interact with others; it’s also the fuel behind your goals, work, and projects, and all the things you do to make life more interesting or exciting.

Love prompts you to seek help when you need it and guidance to better understand yourself and the world; it motivates you to nurture the things and people you care about, and to enjoy watching them grow and reach their potential. Love inspires you to keep going when you feel like giving up, when you’ve been deceived or betrayed, or hurt in some way.

Because love is the substance of your true Self—the spark of Divine Consciousness you really are. You’re always looking for the essence of you, both consciously and unconsciously, in everything you do and everyone you meet. You’ve just been tricked into believing that you’ll find love and peace outside of yourself, through the fulfillment of desires, so you chase one after another in the hopes of discovering what makes you happy.

The paradoxical quality of life (and Consciousness) is at play here, to help you explore and experience it through sensory perception, as if things were separate from you. You project what’s inside you onto others and then expect them to give it back to you in a nice, well integrated package; that is, you seek to heal your emotional wounds through external things rather than tapping into the real source of love. By coloring your perception with past imprints and familiar feelings, the ego-mind—a.k.a. your wounded child archetype, ‘pain body,’ or inner bully—blocks the flow of true love with fear and negative emotions.

In other words, it keeps you from growing emotionally and spiritually, disconnecting you from your Self. You are love, and yet you feel unloved; you are light and yet you feel confused; you are joy and yet you feel discouraged or apathetic and resistant toward your own dreams and desires. There’s a big difference between attempting to heal through your relationships, which often creates a codependent, self-defeating dynamic that keeps you under the control of ego, and engaging with the flow of life from a place of self-love.

Self-love is not selfishness or narcissism; in fact, these are distorted attempts to compensate for a deeply wounded sense of self during childhood, due to lack of love and safety. True love is self-fulfilling. It doesn’t require proof or validation, because it is the essence of your soul, and your soul is a spark of Divine Consciousness—infinite, eternal, all-encompassing, and free. Only love heals, and love heals it all.

Love pervades life; it’s everywhere, even the air you breathe is made of love. But you can only perceive this truth from the higher intelligence of the heart, not the ego-mind, because ego is what creates the illusion of separation from your essence and the real meaning and purpose of life: to discover the true YOU. Once you realize that nothing is really separate from you, for it is your own projection—your mental life-movie—you pierce the veils of ego to recognize yourself as your soul, beyond any self-images or your identification with the behavior of those around you.

Then it becomes easier to disbelieve the fear, anger, attachments, resentments, expectations, hurts, and regrets your ego-mind has kept you trapped in, to expand your awareness toward more love, life, and abundance for all. You stop justifying your existence to be who you are, not who you think you should be, and find peace with yourself and the world. This is experienced as coming back to your true home, which you have yearned for since time immemorial.

It starts by looking within, listening to the inner voice that anchors your perception in the truth of who you are: pure, infinite, untainted love. To illustrate this, I’d like to share one of my favorite poems from Nobel Prize recipient Derek Walcott:


The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

Love is the most powerful force in the Universe, but the ego-mind distorts and blocks it to remain in charge of your perception, keeping you trapped in the past, and robbing you of the freedom to be and express your truth and vision without fear. So contact me today and begin a fascinating inner journey to reclaim the power of love within you and shape the life you desire and deserve!

© 2017 Yol Swan. All rights reserved.





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